There is nothing that can prepare you for the moment when you discover that the person closest to you, who you count on the most, has betrayed you. Whether it is a single affair or a long term pattern of sexual behavior, the sheer devastation of finding out your partner is not who you thought they were and your relationship is not what you thought it was, can knock the emotional wind out of you for a long time.
This is Betrayal Trauma.
If you have experienced Betrayal Trauma, you recognize the type of pain we are talking about. There really are no words are there? It hurts to your core. Along with the pain is an incredible amount of fear, panic, anxiety, and anger. Sexual betrayal often puts your entire relationship on the line. All that felt certain and sure is suddenly unclear and unpredictable.
For betrayed partners, the moment of discovery becomes a demarcating line, a streak of white lightning separating your life into before and after.
PartnerHope Is Here to Walk With You During the After.
We are here to provide you with information, support, wisdom and most of all hope. Hope that there is a way through the deep dark night of fear and despair you have found yourself in. Hope that there is a path that can be followed, markers along the way and support to help you get through the chaos and confusion. Hope that there is a way to survive the devastation and maybe even, dare we say it, thrive and flourish once again.
About Michelle Mays
Michelle Mays LPC, CSAT-S is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the State of Virginia and the District of Columbia. She is a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She is the founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Relational Recovery with offices in Leesburg VA and Washington DC where she leads an expert clinical team in providing care for individuals and couples dealing with sexual addiction, trauma and relationship issues. And she is someone who knows first-hand what it is like to deal with the trauma of betrayal.
When she was way too young, Michelle got married and over the next decade walked through her own story of heartbreak, betrayal, grief and eventual healing and recovery. This journey led her to graduate school where she received a Master’s Degree in Counseling and then into private practice where she began working with sex addicts and their partners. This in turn introduced her to the work of Patrick Carnes Ph.D. and led her to get trained as a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and to specialize in some of the most difficult and rewarding work imaginable.
In 2011 she launched the Center for Relational Recovery, a counseling center grounded in the belief that all change happens in relationship and that our attachments to others are both the most meaningful and at times the most challenging parts of our lives.
Today her passion is PartnerHope, an online portal offering authentic hope and a healing pathway to betrayed partners around the world through information, resources, tools, and connections with one another, subject experts and inspiring pathfinders.