Ten Things To Do (and Not Do) After Being Betrayed

If you’ve been cheated on, no matter how it is revealed or how it is done, where, when, or with whom, the painful fact is that cheating means you’ve been …

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What Should I Do After Discovery?

Carol the Coach and I got back together to discuss what you should do after discovery. This interview dives into my newest eBook, When it All Breaks Bad: Ten Things To Do (and Not Do) After Betrayal. During our talk, we discuss some of the important steps betrayed partners need to take to begin their own healing process.

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PRODEPENDENCE: A NEW PARADIGM FOR PARTNERS OF ADDICTS

By: Robert Weiss PhD, MSW, CSAT Note from Michelle: This week, we are taking a break from our normal programming. Instead, Rob Weiss, who has just published his book Prodependence: …

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BETRAYAL REQUIRES RELATIONAL RECOVERY

If the significant wound of betrayal happens in relationship (and betrayal is always relational), then it makes sense that our healing and restoration must also happen in relationship. The impact …

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BETRAYAL: THE HEARTSHOT OF RELATIONAL TRAUMA

Over the past five years or so, betrayal trauma has started to enter our lexicon and be used in our everyday language. When I founded the Center for Relational Recovery …

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THE DYNAMIC, MULTI-DIMENSIONAL NATURE OF BETRAYAL TRAUMA

In my previous two posts, we deepened our understanding of complex trauma, primarily focusing on the fact that when relational betrayal occurs, the resulting complex trauma often manifests as emotional …

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COMPLEX BETRAYAL TRAUMA & RELATIONAL DISCONNECTION

In last week’s post, I introduced the concept of complex trauma, which Christine Courtois defines as “traumatic stressors that are interpersonal, that are premeditated, planned, and caused by other humans, …

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COMPLEX BETRAYAL TRAUMA & EMOTIONAL DYSREGULATION

Betrayal trauma makes you feel like you are losing your mind. It puts you on an emotional rack and pulls you in opposite directions until you are begging for mercy. …

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MOVING AWAY FROM OBJECTIFICATION

In my previous post, we discussed the fact that as women we sexually objectify ourselves and other women just as much as men do. We live in a highly sexualized …

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OBJECTIFICATION: NOT JUST FOR MEN

Merriam-Webster defines objectification as “to treat as an object.” Vocabulary.com says that objectification is “when a person is treated as a thing.” What these definitions tell us is that objectification …

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