I often have partners who come to see me ask within the first session or two, “How will I ever trust my cheating spouse again?” My answer to them is that this is not the best question to be asking. The better question to ask is, “How will I rebuild trust with myself? How will I learn to trust my gut and know what I know?”
This week we are going to look at what happens to betrayed partners when they are lied to and manipulated chronically over time in order to keep secret behavior hidden.
There are four primary types of gaslighting behaviors: the straight-up lie, reality manipulation, scapegoating and coercion. Last week we looked at the straight-up lie and reality manipulation. This week we are going to focus on scapegoating and coercion.
Many of you have contacted me to ask, “What were the four types of gaslighting?” So, to answer your question, I’ve decided to write a series of posts where I will define gaslighting and unpack the four types.
I have a vision for you as well, a vision based on the healing I have experienced and the extraordinary changes I see taking place in the lives of betrayed partners every day.
As we begin a New Year together, this is the question I want us to contemplate: is betrayal the event that, if we allow it to, will produce positive transformation in our lives beyond anything we would have thought possible? Can we become the hero of our betrayal story?
As we look back on 2018, there were some blog posts that really resonated with you. Here is a look back on the top 5.
If you’ve been cheated on, no matter how it is revealed or how it is done, where, when, or with whom, the painful fact is that cheating means you’ve been …
Carol the Coach and I got back together to discuss what you should do after discovery. This interview dives into my newest eBook, When it All Breaks Bad: Ten Things To Do (and Not Do) After Betrayal. During our talk, we discuss some of the important steps betrayed partners need to take to begin their own healing process.