BETRAYAL: THE HEARTSHOT OF RELATIONAL TRAUMA

Over the past five years or so, betrayal trauma has started to enter our lexicon and be used in our everyday language. When I founded the Center for Relational Recovery …

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THE DYNAMIC, MULTI-DIMENSIONAL NATURE OF BETRAYAL TRAUMA

In my previous two posts, we deepened our understanding of complex trauma, primarily focusing on the fact that when relational betrayal occurs, the resulting complex trauma often manifests as emotional …

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COMPLEX BETRAYAL TRAUMA & RELATIONAL DISCONNECTION

In last week’s post, I introduced the concept of complex trauma, which Christine Courtois defines as “traumatic stressors that are interpersonal, that are premeditated, planned, and caused by other humans, …

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COMPLEX BETRAYAL TRAUMA & EMOTIONAL DYSREGULATION

Betrayal trauma makes you feel like you are losing your mind. It puts you on an emotional rack and pulls you in opposite directions until you are begging for mercy. …

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MOVING AWAY FROM OBJECTIFICATION

In my previous post, we discussed the fact that as women we sexually objectify ourselves and other women just as much as men do. We live in a highly sexualized …

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OBJECTIFICATION: NOT JUST FOR MEN

Merriam-Webster defines objectification as “to treat as an object.” Vocabulary.com says that objectification is “when a person is treated as a thing.” What these definitions tell us is that objectification …

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THE CHEATER BEFORE DISCOVERY AND THE CHEATER AFTER DISCOVERY: TWO DIFFERENT PEOPLE

Today’s blog is written not just for you as a betrayed partner, but for your therapists, your pastors, your friends and family members, your 12-Step fellowship group members, and anyone …

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WHY WE SHERLOCK, PART 3

In Part 1 of this series on Sherlocking, we discussed the fact that early in the healing process betrayed partners tend to spy, snoop, and sleuth to find out the …

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WHY WE SHERLOCK, PART 2

You know that you sleuth, spy, and snoop to find out the truth about the betrayal in your relationship, to validate that what you have been told about the betrayal …

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Podcast Interview with Rob Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S on Understanding Complex Betrayal Trauma

  I recently had the opportunity to be interviewed by Rob Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S on his podcast called Sex, Love and Addiction 101. We talked about working with betrayed partners, explored …

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