I often hear betrayed partners talk about receiving disclosure after disclosure from their partner as the secrets and lies around the cheating behaviors trickle out over weeks and months after the initial discovery. What they are really receiving is more discovery, not disclosure.
Disclosure is a facilitated, carefully prepared and supported process where the unfaithful individual provides his or her partner with a fully honest account of his or her history of cheating or sexual acting out behaviors.
Discovery is when partial truth is unintentionally revealed or is told in bits and pieces over time as the cheating partner attempts to limit the damage from their behaviors and keep information hidden.
These are two very different processes that are experienced very differently by the betrayed partner and should not be confused with one another. Below is a chart outlining the differences between disclosure and discovery to help you differentiate between the two.
About the Author:
Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S is the Founder of PartnerHope.com and the Center for Relational Recovery, an outpatient treatment center located in Northern Virginia. She has helped hundreds of betrayed partners and sexually addicted clients transform their lives and relationships. Michelle is the author of The Aftermath of Betrayal and When It All Breaks Bad and leads the field in identifying and crafting effective treatment strategies for betrayed partners.
Braving Hope is a ground-breaking coaching intensive for betrayed partners around the world. Working with Michelle will help you to move out of the devastation of betrayal, relieve your trauma symptoms and reclaim your life.